My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

peachpurple Level 1

November 13, 2017, 5:03 am

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Thank you everyone for suggesting me to write a resume for a housewife. I had sent out my resume as a housewife for 10 years, being truthful instead of hiding away the real fact. However, out of 7 jobs that I had applied, 5 of the prospective companies had rejected my application. The quickest rejection was ONE DAY after submission, which I was surprised that the closing date for the post was not due yet.

Anyway, I have come to realized that it isn't easy to apply for a 9-5 job after becoming a full-time housewife for 10 years. Nobody wants an "Stagnant Mother" to be one of the employee. Furthermore, an old goat too!

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DarthHazard

DarthHazard

I wouldn't say that it is because of the fact that you are a housewife. Maybe some of the applications you sent are were rejected because of that but it may also be because of other factors such as not being qualified for the position. Maybe there were just better people that had applied for the job. The best thing to do is to keep applying because I'm sure there will be a place that will be happy to employ you.

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wiseagent

wiseagent

The fact of the rejection may not have been exclusively because she was a housewife, but it certainly had a negative bearing on the final decision. It's a very wrong - and sad/ worrisome - way of looking at people.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

that is how the employers are looking at employees right now. My teenager who had been working for 2 years said that her manager and other department managers are searching for fresh graduate with no experience rather than housewife with experience.

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DarthHazard

DarthHazard

A lot of companies are quite guilty of that actually. They will tend to hire younger people sometimes for positions over someone that is older. I'm not sure how old you are but once you are past a certain age, employees will tend to start preferring choosing younger applicants. It happens all over the world, to be fair.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@DarthHazard It's a common thing to look for young blood in company's work force. It would be an embarrassing thing looking at your work force comprising of mostly old cargos. But that shouldn't rule out one or two old workers whom there experience would be priceless to the company's day to day activities.

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Adesuwa08

Adesuwa08

Hello peach, I tried replying you via comment box but it was already closed, I liked the whole description you gave and how unfortunate they didn't reply a honest housewife they losses you by the way. You stated something about you that I didn't like, you called yourself an old goat, oh! Dear, you don't realize the amount of experience you have in you for being an bousewife for years. Nowadays the working society needs all the lies so you can be able to get employed, I respect the fact that you didn't lie you simply kept to being yourself, also know that assuming they for example employed you; probably you wouldn't have been happy.

See this that you tell other housewives about your story, don't only advice them to get a job, rather educate them on the high possibilities of making money online. You could become a special adviser on this kind of topics, your story motivated me, make sure it doesn't stop with me only. Start up a website (that's if you don't have one), your target should be housewives and unemployed ladies, teach them how to make easy jobs without working 9 to 10 jobs. I hope you respond to this with a good feedback, and also for you to realize how much you will touch lives of other women.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@Adeswa08 You are indeed a motivational writer. You just simply spit what I have already in mind and I'm just here to second to it. Looking down on oneself is the most costly mistake anyone can make because even before things refuse to go as you planned or your way, you are already with the negativity and conclusion that's your are not good enough. That sends out a bad aura about someone even with your noticing but one's attitude will say it all.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@peachpurple It's nice giving young fresh graduates opportunity to work, in fact it's an influencer on making other youths to take their studies very seriously. But I still believe that leaving out experience while recruiting is a huge mistake because these young workers with no experience can't handle work pressure very well because with experience comes wisdom.

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cmoneyspinner

cmoneyspinner

I know how you feel. I'm in my 60s now but I stopped sending out my resume long time ago and started looking for something I could do working at home. I decided to hire myself.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

From where I stand, being a house wife is not an easy task, to manage a family is a very huge establishment that most people fail in. @wiseagent why do you think there are lots of divorce cases flying around lately? It's as a result of failure in home management.

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Kakashi2020

Kakashi2020

She should have highlighted her skills, and should instead put Home Based or Freelancer and not housewife.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

Thanks very much for your encouraging words, I will not give up yet, since you are so positive about it.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@peachpurple That's the mentality, never say never as long as you are still breathing. Giving up is only allowed for the dead and I'm pretty sure you are very much alive and in your prime. So keep up with hustling and in no distant time you will start enjoying the benefits of not giving up.

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Barida

Barida

I agree with you on that reason that it might be as a result of other factors aside from being a house wife and that's what she needs to figure out as well.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@Brida The truth is that it's not always a guarantee that one would get a particular job applied for. There are things a hiring firm might be looking for in prospective applicants and no one can be sure they meet all these requirements until they are hired.

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Baburra

Baburra

I agree. OP shouldn't really take the results too harshly because there is just too much competition out there that it is understandable that it will be difficult to find the right fit where your own qualifications and standards can be met. Being a freelancer myself, I deal with this with each potential client I find since not all of them will be okay with my price or my standards, and that doesn't reflect on either of our personal biases but more just not being the right fit.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@Baburra You are absolutely correct, there is a stiff competition in the labor market and there would always be victims to such competition. It's best not to cry over not getting employed in any particular interview no matter how much you wanted it. It's probably not your luck as at such moments. Keeping hope and going for more is the only way to beat the competition.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

It's good not to lose hope and give up. I have a friend who kept applying for a job for more than 8 years consecutively and on the 9th year she finally got a job. So you can imagine what she passed through all those 8 years without getting employed after series of applications. Persistence is the key in such situations, so it's best to keep it up, sooner or later one firm would pick up your application and make it their final stop in searching.

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Corzhens

Corzhens

In the course of my position in our office, I am sometimes tasked to handle the applications and interview of applicants. If I will come across your resume that you were a housewife, what can you give the bank in terms of service? I mean how can you adjust to the office work when you don't have an experience? However, it will depend on the kind of job you are applying for. So I guess you just keep on trying.

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mar06

mar06

For me we should not judge a person of what occupation they have because we don't know about them. We just try to watch what skill they have to make satisfy whether if they are deserving or not to pass our expectation.

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anahbello1206

anahbello1206

I agree with you, Being a housewife alone would not be the sole basis fro rejecting an applicant. There are several other reasons. What you need to do instead is, identify your weakness and try to improve them. Maybe in that way you would be able to find more job opportunity.

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treecko142

treecko142

Yeah, while this rejection is very unfortunate for anyone, employers nowadays (especially in the more successful companies) have strict hiring qualifications, and they prefer the younger but more experienced people for the job as they would be the most profitable people in the long run. They also choose young professionals who don't have other responsibilities yet as they can be sure that their primary focus will be the company.

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TheInsaneSakif

TheInsaneSakif

I agree with what you've said. When you're applying for a job, there is so much competition, and the only way to increase your chances of getting in is to set yourself apart with valuable skills. You need to provide value to the company that you're going to work with. Therefore, it doesn't matter if you're a housewife because if you have REAL skills, then you'll certainly be hired.

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davedaot04

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Yeah you're absolutely right about that, It's not not stated that she's rejected because of the fact that she's a housewife so the maybe the reason that she's rejected is because as what you've mention, she's maybe not qualified. For me the best thing she can do is to maybe improve her skills more and keep applying until she gets accepted.

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Barida

Barida

Being a housewife doesn't put you off from getting that dream job and I suggest you have a review of most of the application letters you wrote to these companies. Doing so would help to point out some errors you need to correct as well.

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DarthHazard

DarthHazard

I agree. It may also be a good idea to contact them and ask them why they rejected you. Some of them may decline to comment but others may give some feedback to you which you can use to help you. It's important that you do not give up just because a few companies have not employed you.

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Barida

Barida

That's what I really meant by my post. She should try to talk with them and see reasons for the rejection in order to take correction in future interview or submission of CV.

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Martinsx1

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@DarthHazard I think it's going to be a 1:10 company aspect ratio that would be kind to relay to one the reason why they weren't employed. Not as a result of anything personal but because they probably processed thousands of applications and should they be giving explanation as to why anyone was rejected, I think they are going to set up another task force for such work.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

Thanks for your advice, I think I should have amend the content for each application because I had applied 7 jobs with similar posts. In addition, I need to put in the requirement of job into my CV too.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@peachpurple I'm glad you had to pick out this error, I believe it had a hand in setting you back with getting any of those jobs. But since you have pointed that out now, just make efforts in correcting and amending the application and CV as well. Good luck with your next trail.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

That's a great idea @Barida, this never occurred to me before now. One might be missing something and it could be a repeated mistake over and over again which keeps costing one the job. This is very thoughtful of you.

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JoeMilford

JoeMilford

Still, you can't give up so quickly! I just got a new teaching job two months ago, and I had a fairly accomplished resume, and it still took me THREE YEARS to get the position! It's not easy for any of us out there, and you just have to persevere! You never know what can happen if you keep at it. Don't market yourself as a housewife, necessarily. You can explain the gap in your employment history in different ways without such labels, I think. Go online and watch some tutorials and vlogs about resume writing and self-promotion. Don't give up!

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peachpurple

peachpurple

thanks very much. I had found a few resume of housewife that even describe "Housewife" as a post with duties and experiences. I used that as my current occupation. Maybe that is the reason they rejected me?

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

It depends my dear @peachpurple. It may be the reason for the rejection or it may be another thing all together, one cannot certainly be sure about the reason for the rejection unless you are told. There are several options that you can link up as your work experience apart from including your housewife role because I'm seeing you think it's the major reason why you are always being rejected.

When you are growing up as a youth, I believe there are some voluntary organizations you did a few task for. You can find a way and incorporate such in your CV as work experience.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

Congratulations @JoeMilford on getting your teaching job. I'm into academics as well and I can openly tell you that it's a good profession that would afford you time to do other things you need to do. I believe it's definitely going to be a perfect job for most wives because it's going to afford them time to take care of their homes.

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wiseagent

wiseagent

This is really sad, but... Don't feel - not for a single moment - despised for being a housewife. Giving up is a word that can not be part of your life (remember that My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

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This rejection only proves one thing (which is something obvious to me): That it's still necessary to change many things in society, like the way it treats people.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

Thanks for your kind words. I am not discouraged yet. I am revamping my CV now, I think I need to change the content and the address and add in some more stuff that they required. Should I add in selfie photo?

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

If you think a picture is required, I would recommend an official passport photograph instead of a selfie. The picture would probably be for official documentation, so a passport is best suited for such over a selfie.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

You are absolutely right @wiseagent, to give should never be an option for anyone as long as there is life still in such. It's best to keep up hope and still fight hard until one realizes his or set employment goals.

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Krisleen

Krisleen

I may not be a housewife but I know how you feel. I was able to finish my studies and earn a bachelor's degree but I struggled looking for a job despite all that. There really is discrimination and I even see that happen in a lot of people. In employment you are judged according to your past. I turned into a full time entrepreneur and I can say that it's more enjoyable. It's completely different. No one will judge you according to your past experience. They will ask you what you want to become. Another good thing about having a business is that it's more worth the hardships and effort. Employees are overpaid at first and underpaid for the rest of your life that's why a lot of people here keep on job hopping. Entrepreneurs on the other hand, are underpaid at first and overpaid for the rest of their lives which is why I realized that business is the way to go. You also control your life, your time, your income. It's all worth the effort. If you still struggle being discriminated while applying for a job, I would suggest that you consider starting with a small business as an alternative. It's even better to involve your husband. Teamwork makes the dream work.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

Thanks for your advice. We used to open a Computer shop for 16 years until it closed down due to problems. IT was a waste. He said he is not setting up a new business anymore

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mildredtabitha

mildredtabitha

Take heart but you shouldn't be thinking that your application got rejected because of being a housewife. Even if all the applications were accepted, you will still have to go with one company.

You should see it as applying job for the first time and with no experience. That is how it is for new job seekers. You never get approved immediately. You should keep applying.

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JoeMilford

JoeMilford

You make a really good point here. I think I said something similar, but you are right when you say that, even if every application or job offer came through, you would still have to choose, so really you are just looking, like the employers are, for that one "perfect fit" (if that even exists), and that situation is worth waiting for anyway, in my experience.

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wiseagent

wiseagent

I think the dream employee doesn't exist (no matter how much companies tend to realize them). what exists is a person with the exact qualifications at very specific times. In some cases, luck can be a further push for some people.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

thanks very much, I will take it that I am a new at applying job. My hubby said it will take 3 months to get a job at my age.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

Right on point @mildredtabitha, getting a job for the first time is always difficult unless you have some contact that possess the resources to make things swift for you, but if not, it's as difficult as finding a niddle in a haystack.

Just like you said, persistence is the only way to get through such tough phase of seeking for employment, and it's good to always keep a positive attitude and mentality because it's what would keep you from losing hope.

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Judas2018

Judas2018

Sorry to hear that. Perhaps you should think about starting up a home-based business? Perhaps becoming an entrepreneur might be your true path in life.

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wiseagent

wiseagent

To use your "possible flaw" (in her case, in the eyes of those who rejected her: being a housewife) in her favor is a great idea. It can be very challenging at first, but I particularly think it's something extremely motivating.

Find a niche and dig deep into it. My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@wiseagent I'm quite sure even though she is seeing it that it's because she is a housewife was the reason she was rejected but I definitely don't think so. There may be something else. The best thing for her to do is forget about the application that failed and move on to the next trial.

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DarthHazard

DarthHazard

This is a good idea. It might even be a blessing in disguise. Because of the fact that you were rejected from a few different places, you will be much more motivated to try and prove them wrong which will allow you to do much better with your own business. You will probably be able to make a lot more money than you would have made from the jobs if you can do it right as well.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@DarthHazard From experience I can tell you that running your own personal business is the most important venture one can be invested in. It's gives you freedom to determine the best way to run your business and work towards its expansion. Without having to answer to anyone but your customer in giving them the best service to get them coming back for more.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

I did but failed , 15 years ago, that is why I gave up.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

Well, I'm glad you brought it up here and from all people advice and suggestions, it's pretty clear to you that giving up is not an option. So therefore, all you need to do is to pick yourself up and rethink your strategy.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

This is really a great recommendation @Judas2018, starting up here own individual home business is a great one but it's only going to be possible if she has the fund and resources to set it up.

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Baburra

Baburra

Don't jump to conclusions too quickly. Most of the time, when companies reject you, it might have more to do with being a good fit rather than your being a housewife. Perhaps, there might be more better suited opportunities elsewhere and I would say that it might be better to look for a place of employment that is more low key and comfortable first even if the pay or position isn't so good.

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Judas2018

Judas2018

My parents used to tell me that when they were very young, and applying for certain jobs that they were rejected for being OVER qualified. It's rare but it does happen.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

thanks for your advice, so the pay is not crucial, it is the working environment and the job?

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

@Baburra You are absolutely right on this, I can vividly recall that there was one time banks put out job advertisements and lots of people came calling for employment but to the surprise of most, the applicants with good credentials were disqualified and ones with lower grades were employed.

It's was later they were informed the bank needed workers they are going to pay less.

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Tronia

Tronia

I am sorry that you got rejected and this might sound stupid but don't take it too personally. I know that is very hard since they rejected YOU but all businesses that look for new people to hire always have very specific criteria and they don't often list all of them - they have a vision beforehand of who they want to hire and unless you fit into it, they will reject you. I don't think that it's because you are a housewife. So, don't give up, keep looking for a job and I am sure that one will pop up.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

thanks tronia, I am sure there are some employers out there who are willing to employ me, middle age mom, just stay positive

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DenisP

DenisP

Perhaps it is just my tendency to look at the bright side of life, but I feel like at least landing those two jobs is pretty alright. I have friends with pretty decent credentials who could apply to 10 jobs and get rejected 10 times, simply because the job market in their area is in such saturated condition.

Keep your head up and continue to move forward. I'm sure that it will work out for you eventually, and it is just going to require some persistence. This is often the case when it comes to job hunting.

Wishing you the best of luck on your journey.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

yes, it is not easy to get a job if the location is not in favor of my current residence. I will keep looking and see whether I can get a job nearer to my location

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DenisP

DenisP

You probably shouldn't be limiting yourself to jobs near your location though. Having to commute is often frustrating, I know. Who wouldn't want to have a job that is within their neighborhood? But the thing is if you limit the area you're willing to work in, you're also limiting your possibilities. Sometimes you're going to have to leave the comfort zone, both figuratively and literally, in order to find work opportunities. If possible, take a job that is farther away from you now, and perhaps in time a closer opportunity will come up.

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ColdFlameChris

ColdFlameChris

That's what I hate about some of the company rules, they don't even consider you for being a full-time mom. Instead, they treat you like you're not fit for the job description which I doubt about it. That's why I don't want to work on a 9-5 job since there is always some discrimination. I do hope that online jobs will be the main job since this is more convenient for us and also, you don't need to experience every day the traffic. So sorry to hear that most of the companies reject you but hopefully, you get the perfect company that will appreciate you for who you are. Goodluck My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

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kurai1128

kurai1128

Rejection means its not meant for you. Maybe your not just the right person for the job that's why they didn't hire you. Not because your a housewife. Look into a positive way that if one door closed for you, other will let you in. Keep on searching and don't give up.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

thanks very much for your kind words. I believe that my age is the main reason and secondly that I am a foreigner . The door is not closed yet, I am still knocking on each door until I could find someone who opens it

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gelotologist

gelotologist

Absolutely right, all companies have different perspectives or the one they actually need, like if they would hire a food server, then they would probably get the more experienced one. But that wouldn't stop you from getting and try other jobs, because in 1 out 10 jobs you would go for, at least 3 would hire you, Just keep the positive vibe. My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

My application was rejected because I am a HOUSEWIFE!

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tiffiecute

tiffiecute

You are not an old goat nor a stagnant mother because, for one thing, you have the greatest job in the world. Mother Mary was a housewife. The late and former President Cory Aquino applied for the Presidency that time with a resume of a housewife. I was and still a housewife, but still, some companies don't turn me down.

Don't lose hope if you were rejected. Remember, just like people, there are lousy and crappy companies or recruiters out there.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

Aww... you are being so nice, appreciated for your lovely and encouraging comments. I am still looking for the job although I cannot find any yet.

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honeybabe

honeybabe

It is really sad when you apply for a job and you get rejected for some reason and did not disclose the reason. I’m also a wife and full time mom and been years like yours that quit job and became a full time mom. If you really want a job don’t give up applying and searching for a job. And if you think this is not the world for you , you can try online job thru internet. There are so many paying online jobs that suits for you and might trigger your interest. There are so many mothers out there that have been successful in internet / home base jobs.

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peachpurple

peachpurple

I have tried online jobs, most are paying cents or dollars in a month, such as $5 in a month, that is way too slow for me to earn money. I could earn $1800 per month if I work full time off line, but on line, I could earn the most is $50

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Judas2018

Judas2018

The only online jobs that pay well are the ones that have you going over mistakes or errors in peoples healthcare or doctors bills. Not exactly very exciting or interesting work. But if you can stand the monotony for a few months in order to earn some decent coin, I would look into it.

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