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Mustering the courage to share your writing with others

I thought I'd turn to here for help since all of us write in at least some way.
I've been writing for a long time now (it started more or less as something that dulled the sense of stress I was feeling in everyday life) and I've written quite a lot of stuff - mostly short stories but some poems too. I know my writing has improved, but no matter what I always feel too...ashamed, or skittish perhaps, to share what I've written with others.
I know this may seem like an unusual problem, but has anyone felt anything similar? The funny thing is that I actually do want to share what I've written with some friends or my family, but I can't seem to get my foot in the door so to speak. Any tips on overcoming that sort of anxiety? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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mitan143

Well, the first question is, do you think that they will be interested to read it? Is the context or the topic of your stories suited on their taste? Do they even want to read? Or are they even interested to still read some poems? I think you should consider who will be your readers first. It's okay to let your family or friends read your works but make sure if they will be going to appreciate it as well. Why not try posting your work on free posting sites?



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Martinsx1

Exactly! The truth is that any written article or content is meant to be read because it's the main purpose of writing that particular work and when a piece of writing isn't read, it has failed the purpose for which it was written in the first place.

So, just like you suggested that the writer should first get his immediate family members to read and help him or her analyze and appreciate the work before deciding if it's worth publishing for the general public to read.



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Youngshark

I think friends can really help to gauge the content that one has and offer the corrections they feel are needed. Its always great to start with your own circle first before you can think of reaching the whole world.



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mitan143

You actually have a point there, but sometimes even your friends or closest one won't really help you a lot especially if they are not interested at all. That's why you have to examine first if they will appreciate it or not or are they even want to read what you're writing about. Sometimes, if that friend or family member gives a criticism to the writer which sometimes out of lack of understanding to the whole context, it may give further discouragement to him to continue what he writes. Unlike if he posted it online where a lot of potential readers who can possibly understand what he wants to tell to everyone is a great help to him too. The reason why we write is for a lot people to read it, afterall.

But I'd like agree with your point as well, because friends and families are the one who will point out the mistakes and how good it is before you can finally show the to the world your work. And I think it depends on the situation as well, if you think you can trust them then why not let them try to read your work. You will receive a quick feedback as well for that.



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Youngshark

This is true my friend there are actually friemds or family that might try to push you down and it is important to look out for such elements early enough and avoid them.



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jeffreyjose48

It really takes a lot of courage to share what you have written. Especially share it with your family and friend. Sometimes you would think that they would not like what you have written. Also you might be thinking that they will laugh or not. They will be happy or not.

I believe whatever their reaction would be. You have let your hearts out through writing. Its up for them to react. Will they approve or not? I hope that they will appreciate what you have written.



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amelia88

That's a good point. I write predominantly about traveling and places I've visited, but I have plenty of family and friends who have zero desire to travel anywhere - they're completely content at home so they wouldn't really be interested with that kind of content. I guess the biggest consideration then is to know your audience!



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Martinsx1

I believe that whenever one decides to write a story, book or an article, there are people who such contents are already meant for. Nobody writes first before thinking about the audience he or she is writing for. Such writing would be done in error because people it's being forced upon might not appreciate it. So, determining your readers first before starting to write would definitely make you less tense about them reading your work.



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NerdIndeed

This. It doesn't have to be friends or family first. It would help if you shared your thoughts with like-minded people or those who are in the same niche as yours to get credible reactions. Regarding your anxiety, it comes and goes. I am pretty sure that once you gain followers who will love and appreciate to read your articles, you'll feel more comfortable. Do more research as well, it helps. Good luck!



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Jeane

Two years ago I saw a number of sites where writers would share their writing. They would get feedback which would help them improve their writing.

@OP:
As for being nervous about sharing your writing with others, think about the anonymity the web proffers you.

You could create a free blog on blogger or wordpress and publish something. Not many people will read what you post, yeah but you'll be facing your fear. Do it again and again. Disable comments if you must to avoid receiving negative criticism. In time you'll be comfortable sharing your writing with others.



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EfficientNinja

I think I am experiencing the same thing that's why I don't use my real name when writing online. I feel more comfortable when I write anonymously. I can also voice my opinion well and I wouldn't get stressed or pressured when people would judge my writing because they can't easily link it to my real profile.



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Martinsx1

It's true that some people are not comfortable with having their real personality being linked to any of their work, as they prefer being anonymous writers, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that but it has only one downside which is not getting the actual fame your work is supposed to offer your personality.



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EfficientNinja

I'm happy to live with that drawdown if that's the only bad thing about anonymous writing. Mustering the courage to share your writing with others

If ever I become famous, it would be fun because I would be seen as a fictional character.

I follow a great blogger that shares his investing journey and teach people through his blog, anonymously. After many years he revealed his face and he looks like your average young adult but with an extraordinary talent in investing. Mustering the courage to share your writing with others



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Martinsx1

I see, that's cool in a way about making your readers keep fantasizing about what you would look like, the kind of aura and personality that you would have in person and so on. That looks interesting and intriguing in a way and I bet that some of your audience especially the female ones would fall in love with your unknown character.



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blackmist

I think you can still be famous by being anonymous or just using an alias. What's important is the quality of your article because I think quality is what readers seek or let's say the content of the articles itself.



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EfficientNinja

I agree. It's the content that makes the readers stay. They don't care that much about the writer's personal information as long as he/she can write content that makes sense and are worth their while.



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NerdIndeed

Hey, you're not alone. I prefer to write anonymously too with the same reasons as you specified above. You're right, and it is so hard to be judged by others by only stating what's on your mind. If ever I get to offend anyone or feel I have offended anyone with something I wrote, all I think about is that you can't please everybody, and it's not my problem anymore but theirs.



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ballyhara

Happens to me too. Usually, I don't share my writing. Sometimes, I just want to keep my feelings private, and some others, I think people won't relate to my experience. However, when I want to tell something important to someone, then I better put it down in paper, than to tell it straight to the face. I feel that I can express better my feelings through paper than through voice.



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mitan143

I am definitely doing the same thing! The reason why I write anonymously is exactly the same as yours. Yes, it is very comfortable to write when no one knows you in your real name because, whether we like it or not, there are still people who will disagree with you but I respect them whatever opinion they have for my work. I believe readers don't need to know you personally, as long as you deliver to them successfully the message you want to convey. Though sometimes you need to show them that you are genuine writer by exposing yourself for them to trust you better but I believe it is just situational that depends upon serious matters. I still prefer to write anonymously.



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NerdIndeed

Same here. What I like about the internet concerning writing is having the ability to share your thoughts and ideas without disclosing who you are. An internet ninja indeed, someone who works behind a cloak of shadows.



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theresajane

We share the same sentiments. It's better to feel at ease while you don't have the courage yet. Better hide behind a pseudonym and let your mind wander and your brain work on the substance that your heart wants to write.



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esteban123

I had been also experiencing such situation wherein I have no confidence in posting some of my articles, short stories and even poems and inspirational thoughts because feeling shy at some point. I am afraid that my writings would be a funny one and no one would have the interest to read it that is why I don't post much, I am just posting some of my creation whenever I feel to do so.



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Martinsx1

Some people make the grave mistakes of looking down on themselves even before others get to criticize their work and this is a very bad thing to do to yourself. It's only going to affect your self confidence and keep you pinned down from making any progress with your writing. Some readers are actually looking for funny writings to read, so if you think that your writing would look funny to people, let it be the purpose of the writing.



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bachiekins

You are not alone my friend. I feel the same way. And even if we are already here in this world that anonymity can be done slyly, I still do have the uncertainty of letting my work be out and about. In my reflection. I felt it was my sense of confidence. I felt that everything else has already been done. Then there is also the validation of family and peers. Questions like, do they really like it or they just said they to to shut me up or feel sorry for me.

Anyways, I guess we still need to get out there one way or another. I tried doing it using pseudonyms. And not all were positive feedback. But, I'm glad I did. It made me a little bit brave. And there are also the positive feedback where are truly believe they were honest. I mean, they don't know me and I don't know them.

One step at a time.



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Martinsx1

Personally, I don't have any problems with having my work being read and criticized in any way I come up short with what I wrote. In fact, I see it as the best way to improve my writing because most times our writing might seem or look well to us but when being read and analyzed by another person, some of the place we overlooked errors in would be made known to us.



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Chinet23

I hope that everyone can have the same mindset as yours when it comes to writing. You have reached that point of confidence in your work that feedbacks or comments do not mean that your work is less valued but instead can benefit you to improve further.



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Martinsx1

The truth is that if you fear getting criticism for your work, you are definitely not going to realize your full potential and certainly improve to be the very best at what you do. Although most people thrive well in negative criticism even when they should look at the better side of what you had done but it doesn't matter as long as it gets your work to be better, it's worth.



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Martinsx1

Don't kid yourself too much my friend with worrying about how others whom you would share your writing with would feel or see it like. Just have at the back of your mind that not even everyone can actually write anything on any subject at all, so you should take pride in your work and be very free to let people know about it because you aren't actually writing for yourself but for others to read.



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esteban123

Yes that is right, let other people discover your writings since it is a way to really know if people would find it interesting or not because sometimes we learn from our own experiences. Who knows that people would appreciate your works and hired you as an article writer for their company or for their own. We must just be creative and confident sometimes since negative thoughts can really discouraged us.



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Martinsx1

Feedbacks are the best tool that helps any writer to improve on his writing because it's the only way to find out what you have missed out in adding to your work, and there is no way of getting a feedback on your work until it's read by people. This is the reason why I love it when my work is even criticized because it's the only way to get me being a better writer.



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Chinet23

That's absolutely right. Not everyone can write even those you think are brilliant or smart. I think writer have their way of words and it seemed like a gift but of course you have to be intentional to improve this skill. I am not a professional writer but I do share some writings through social media. I only share it though to a limited few who I know will really read my writings to hear feedback from them. Some people don't have the eye for writing and don't have any interest at all.



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mitan143

I agree. I also don't mind having people criticize my work, in fact I like getting criticisms as long as it is a constructive one. I just easily discarded those aren't constructive and helpful to me to improve. At first, it won't really be going to turn out to be successful because you're still a beginner and I wish people will try to share their works no matter how good or bad it is. But I think they will prepare themselves for criticism as well, because if they couldn't handle such bad feedback then that's really unhealthy for them.



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Martinsx1

Constructive criticism is the very good part of criticism that one could ever get on his or her writing but the sad truth is that most critics thrive well in negative criticism with one goal which is to ridicule one's efforts and make it look bad. These negative minded critics are the problem new writers have with keeping up their writing confidence up because when they get attacked too much, they will give up.



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ajahcuizon

The first step that you should do is to gather confidence to bring out your own self by your writings. You should be proud of it. If you'll hear some negative comments about it, then you should have a room for an improvement and don't let it bring you down. I also felt some fear before that I usually think that people won't like my grammar and content, but when a friend of mine told me that I write very good, I realize that I could really write. Not everyone will be pleased by your content but as long as you're doing what you really love to do, don't stop pursuing it.



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ballyhara

Confidence is the key, and I know that I'm lacking of it. Is not just my writing, but my inner confidence that doesn't let me share whatever I write. As you say, I know not everyone will be pleased with my writing, but maybe I don't feel brave enough to let them read what I want to say.



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beerthooyah

Confidence will be developed if you just keep on writing. Maybe we could start a discussion where we could share all the articles we have written before. In that way writers in this forum could support each other by giving feedbacks or suggestions on our works. Slowly we could build each other's confidence.



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amelia88

It's something I do struggle with quite a bit! I'd rather share my writing with complete strangers over my nearest and dearest...I guess it's because I worry if they thought my work was bad, it would probably hurt me more than if a stranger thought that. I've tried to just slowly open myself up and share things with family or friends who I think would be interested. I think the more positive feedback you begin to get, the better you'll feel about it Mustering the courage to share your writing with others



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superlicca

I understand how you feel about this matter but you should not be bothered about this. Just be confident with your work. I know that it is easy to say this but as long as your work is not offensive or could not hurt anyone's feeling then you should not be ashamed of your content. Feel free to share it and be proud of it. Who knows that your readers will be inspired and get motivated by your work?



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Martinsx1

The truth is that there are some subject matter I try as much as possible to stay away from writing anything on even if it's so tempting and appealing to do just one writing on it. Religion and faith is such topic that I would never write on because no matter how much you try to remain objective and unbiased with your writing, they will definitely be someone who would feel aggrieved and hurt, such spurs hate and bad blood. So, some topics aren't worth writing on to me because of its aftermath.



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Chinet23

I have inhibitions too in sharing what I write these days as compared to when I was younger. Back then I write for a school paper and I was confident and did not feel the pressure. I haven't written much for a long time and I feel that it has to be more refined of better this time in terms of style and grammar. When I write, I only share it to a selected few people who will really read my writing. Fear of rejection is one thing I think that stops us from sharing our articles or writings.



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amelia88

It's funny isn't it, how when we are younger often we have more confidence and less inhibitions than when we get older. I used to be more confident as a young kid to express my writing to others than I am as a grown adult!



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Chinet23

As we grow old, we tend to complicate things and easily gets pressured instead of enjoying what we do. If you write as a profession, that's a totally different playing field and that's a lot harder. The more I learn the more I understand the things I lack and need to discover and improve more. I guess it's just an ongoing learning process.



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rlpzbeermoney

Try and post it online anonymously. Then after getting a few comments, take a look at yourself if you're still shy sharing your work with people you actually know. Maybe share it first to the people closest to you. It maybe your best friend who's your confidant.
I also have this phobia on social media. I feel like people are going to judge whatever I post on Facebook for example and have had instances where just 1 min after posting a picture or wordy comment, I delete it thinking "It's better this way".



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amelia88

I really like that idea of taking the anonymous approach first and then seeing how that goes...and after that following up with people you actually know. It allows for a bit of a vetting process from complete strangers before you show it to your nearest and dearest!



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rlpzbeermoney

An anonymous diary-esque public blogs were famous back then. I also wrote like that back then when Multiply was still a thing. The anonymity allowed me to express myself without restraint as nobody knew the real me.
I'm thinking of starting a blog soon though I really don't know what to blog about.



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Corzhens

You are like some of us here about the English language that we can speak good English when we are talking to foreigners. But when we are talking with one of us then we are somewhat aloof as if we are ashamed of speaking in English. With writing I guess it is the same to me sometimes that I don't want people I know to be reading my blogs. But when I learned that blogs need readers that started the ball rolling that i felt like an accomplished writer.



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mdayrit

I get what you mean. Some people see the proficiency of using the English language as a basis of a person's intelligence. This should not be the case. Although English language is a must if you really want to make it big into writing but it should not also be a hindrance for someone to express and write.



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amelia88

I always think that if someone knows more than one language that they are amazing - no matter how well they know it. English is my first and only language and I still make mistakes in it all the time. I think anyone who masters English well enough to post online should be very proud!



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mitan143

Based on your experience, I suddenly remembered one of my friend who isn't really proud how she writes her works. But she told me too that whenever she read some comments on her works that justifies what message she actually wanted her readers to understand, that what she made proud of herself too. She also said that she was very happy that she became an accomplished writer as well because people were getting and absorbing the message from her works.



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mdayrit

I actually feel the same way too at first. Even if I know I did my best to make a good content to submit, I most of the time don't feel confident of the result. I check my work for several times before I submit it for approval. Whenever possible, I use a different pen name, it somehow helps me feel confident in submitting my work knowing that they don't know who I really am.



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amelia88

Yes, I don't usually put my full name either, I like a degree of anonymity. There's something comforting about being able to put your thoughts out there but not necessarily have a direct connection to who you are in real life.



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superlicca

I have to agree with not showing your real name. Being anonymous is great when sharing your content. I am more comfortable with sharing my thoughts if I know that nobody will recognize me. Because if I will show my real, I will have a fear that someone that I know will read my content.



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coolavender

I have been writing for a while but I only started my own blog more than a year ago. That blog doesn't have my name on it yet but it has several posts on online earning sites I have tried and some freelancing tools. I haven't really tried sharing it on social media for friends and family to see but a grown up nephew happened to read the posts while looking for online work. He had no idea I was the blogger behind it and he was so shocked when I told him it's my blog. What?! His aunt is a blogger?! He actually had to ask for a proof. I'd like to believe that I gained his respect after he found out that I know something about those online stuff. LOL



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jaymish3

I also had this anxiety when I first started writing. I used to take hours and hours trying to ensure that my work is perfect. I realize as time went by that this is totally impossible, never going to happen. Your writing is never going to be perfect. My method is writing the first draft quickly and spending the rest of the time editing. Have some sort of checklist and follow it. Remember perfection comes with practice and time. Nothing more, nothing less. Get yourself out there.



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stbrians

Wriring continuously, reading much and sharing your work will give you the confidence You need. When people begin appreciating you and your work is when you realize your potential and put in more effort.



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Martinsx1

Exactly! Experience is a great way of getting better in your writing career because as the years goes by, you would have explored so many anther writing subjects and with one a two contents on the subject, you would keep improving and keep getting your writing confidence boosted. Also, having to research more would give you a good bank of knowledge to tap from when writing on any topic of your choice and finally getting people to read your work would make you feel you are impacting on people's lives.



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VintageRose

I think that writing is a social experience, but it also has the potential to be something deeply personal. For example, I have no issues sharing my non-fiction writing with peers, friends, and acquaintances, but when it comes to my fiction writing (be it prose or poetry), I suddenly feel fearful. I guess it's because fiction is something linked to our creativity and the workings of our mind, so we feel judged on a more personal level.

The best advice I can give you, according to my own experience, is to build your backbone by sharing your content with anonymous strangers online. It's true that sometimes online criticism tends to be destructive, but I've noticed that when it comes to writing, the support tends to be positive, sometimes overwhelmingly so. It's my opinion that after some feedback from strangers, you'll be able to share your writing with people you care about and therefore get past your previous shyness.



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amelia88

It makes me so happy to hear that you've had such positive interactions with strangers online - those kind of experiences are so uplifting and confidence boosting. Especially when it's so easy for people to be mean and nasty for no reason online, it's refreshing to get the opinion of a stranger that really is so positive.



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beerthooyah

I suggest that you show your work to your close friends or family first and ask them about their opinion. Getting honest feedback from your inner circle will give you a knowledge on what kind of improvements that you must make in writing. There is no reason for you to be ashamed of your work because it is a product of your hardwork and creativity. All of us may need some improvements sometimes even those that are well experienced in writing also needs to update their style and knowledge. Go on keep on writing and share it to the world.



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Aeolos

I am not really a good writer but when my friends during college found out that I had an article in our school publication, they were dumbfounded. At first, I'm really not confident with my write ups since they were very simple and straightforward. However, my English teacher read my essay in the our class and asked me if he could submit my work to the publication. Long story short, my article made it into the publication and I never been so proud of myself. I advice you to look for someone who can validate your work and will guide you through its process. We all started rough and end so well later.



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blackmist

Just believe in yourself try to overcome that kind of feeling. Shyness is really a big obstacle when it come to achieving something. Maybe you are not used in sharing your writings that's why you lack that courage but I suggest you to start now to share them. I'm sure one day you will get used to it and ca freely distribute them to everybody. Good luck.



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esteban123

I think it is much better to write articles that have your interest so that you will be motivated to do it. Aside from that you can write many things since you have a vast knowledge or experience in it. It is a way also that the article would look interesting and attractive to your prospective readers. Sometimes you just need to do things that you like in order to gain trust and confidence in everything you do.



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Youngshark

I would nonetheless advice caution whenever you feel the need and urge to share your content with others for them to test or approve it. In many instances some people will naturally oppose without evaluating your content keenly. It is advisable to diatinguish between positive critism and the negative kind.



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DenisP

You say that it may seem like an unusual problem, but I actually think it’s the total opposite. I’m pretty sure that nearly everyone is insecure when it comes to their work. Whether it’s painters, musicians, or writers, most artists usually think twice before showing anyone what they’ve been working on, particularly when starting out.

I’d say that the best thing you can do is work until you’re satisfied with your work, you feel that you’ve done the best you possibly can, and then put it out there for the world. If you face criticism, then take it with a positive attitude and use it to improve the appeal of your work.

That is unless your aim isn’t to appease others, in which case, you’re still bound to find people who appreciate that attitude towards your work.



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anchoreztin

I use "pen name" when publishing my works so that potential reader will judge or appreciate my works according to my works not because it is made by me. It is really effective if you haven't mustered the courage to share your works to others. Also I believe that in order to improve a writer must be open for criticism and suggestion. People are more truthful and straightforward when giving criticism to people they do not know. Sometimes of people knows you personally, they tend to give biased opinion. So sharing your works under a pen name in really not that bad. It can help too.



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rlpzbeermoney

I do think a pen name would be a nice solution to his anxiety. Though I don't agree that people are truthful and straightforward in criticism. Most of the people I know have hidden personalities. Given an anonymous status on the web, they chew out this person who's looking for criticism. I for one don't want my real name out there in the web if any. For security purposes and just peace of mind that somebody would come after me.



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Kakashi2020

I do think that you have some kind of Writer's Anxiety and the best way to get rid of it is by using a Pseudonym. This would let you share your content without being affected by the people's reaction.



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anchoreztin

That is how I feel about it. A pseudonym can help him reduce some of his fears while it can boost his confidence to publicly share his works. I used to have pseudonyms when I was part of the student publication in our university. Those who hates me loves my work. I bet if they knew that I am the one who wrote those poems, they will not appreciate my works.



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jetselle

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romyter013

You know what, I felt the same thing too. The first time I wrote something feels like what if they wont like it, But eventually after doing it several times, you'll get used to it. It feels great too really, to people who tried to agreed and read your comments, helps to boost your personality for being who you really are based to your points of view about the topic.



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HappyLady

It isn't easy to share the words you have crafted and I would recommend you do so in a benign writer's group where people simply share what they have written. I was fortunate in that the first offline writer's group I attended consisted of visually impaired people and me. It was a lot easier to show people my work when they could not see me!

The nearest thing is an online place. One I know of is called "Persona Paper." (Google them as I am not sure of the rules on link sharing, although this site does not pay.)They don't pay, but the people there are friendly, and if you explained you were sharing and hoping for feedback, they might well give some. I go there occasionally.

Remember if you do share something, once you put it out on the Internet, it is no longer original content, so be selective on what you do share.

Like anywhere, you get the best response if you show interest in other people's writing.

It is all a matter of taking the first steps towards confidence.



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superlicca

The truth is we are not ready for negative feedbacks that is why sharing our content with others is hard to do. It takes enough courage to convince ourselves that we are ready. But what important is, we have to be open-minded and strong to deal with different comments of people. We will get used to it and will be comfortable with sharing your work.



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Gilgamesh

You need to deal with criticism once you let the other people to read your work and also you must trust yourself to do that. Those negative comments can lead to your deeper understanding at things that will even help your improvement in writing. Also you need to take a break in writing so some new ideas may come up in your mind to start an another phase in writinh because overworking for it is a bad choice because your mind will start in wandering ideas that you can't think about.



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cmoneyspinner

You may already know this but Charles Dickens did not start out writing classics like “David Copperfield” and “A Tale of Two Cities”, “Great Expectation”, “Oliver Twist” and “A Christmas Carol”. He started writing articles in a magazine. It was a humble beginning that led to greatness.

I don't know where you are in achieving your writing goals, but I can tell you that you get anywhere if you don't start somewhere. So you scared? Isn't everybody scared when they first begin? Most of us are! Go for it!



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theresajane

I can totally relate to you. I am someone who doesn't really have the confidence to share my written works directly to my family. However, one way to inderectly share it to people around you is to casually post it on your social media accounts. In my case, I sometimes post a photo accompanied by a short line from poems I created. Gradually, I have mustered up my courage to post my poems online once in a while.



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jaymish3

I think also another way to bypass our shy phase is to use a pseudo infact I recommend it until you get your confidence in writing which comes slowly and it comes with the more work that you do. What we all need to remember like with everything writing is a process and the more you write the more you improve. No one is born a writer. Writing is a skill and like with all skills you need to build your skill level and with it your confidence.



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theresajane

Yes, that's a great idea. Training yourself to publish your work with a pseudonym first because who knows, people might like what you have written and get curious aboutabout your identity. Once you reveal yourself, it would be a great shock and amazement to everyone.



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MomoStarr16

I feel so sad about having a writer this feeling. You know, as a writer our main reason is to share all our works and if they love them we will be happy and feel so complete. But of course I also became like one of that person. What I actually did is I focus on the talent I have and convince my self that I really can't please everyone. But at least there will always be one person that will appreciate out works. Try to be patient and brave for yourself. Don't be feel bad when someone did not like it. Try until they love your works.



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jpk0007

You know in the past I too had such a feeling of having problems with sharing anything with others. That was long time back but I know how you feel because I have been in that situation.But things did change with time and I no longer feel that way anymore.

In fact nowadays I just am always eager to share my views , my experiences with everyone.I have no fear of how people will judge me and think about me anymore. I guess the more you consciously make an effort to share , the more you will come out of this problem.



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Kakashi2020

I do know some people who are a bit to overcritical when it comes to their finished content, this would make them think twice if they would share it or not. In my opinion thinking too much when it comes to one's writing isn't really healthy. It's because a writer needs to share his writings in order for people to judge if it's good or not. A writer can't say for sure if his content is good or not unless people have read and commented on it.



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thejoyrevolutio

There is no better than way than to face it. Accept that your work may not be the best. Be okay with criticism. Sharing your work can improve your writing. Share it with someone with insights. Never be afraid of mistakes you make. Also you will never know if your work is good if you keep it to yourself. There is no harm in trying.



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emiaj55

I had the same anxiety way back high school. It was when I started writing. Back then I felt too ashy to share my work and too fearful that they might not like it. But joining the school paper was what opened the door for me. I started by news writing but later on submitted my works for literary. Short poems and essays. From then on, I never stopped writing.

But if you are already out of school, I think the best way is post your work in writer-reader sites-- like Wattpad for instance. If you are still ashy, then you could use a pen name so you would be anonymous. Then If you would want to share your work to your friends and know how they feel about your works, then you may share it on social media sites like Facebook. Share it under your pen name and ask their opinions about it. If they like it then you could reveal that it was you that wrote it. This would help you be more confident in your work. If they don't, then ask for the parts that they didn't like and think if they really need to be revised. Because sometimes your family and friend won't really get you, so maybe your writing might not be for them. That doesn't mean that your writing is bad. You just have to find the proper audience.

Hope this helps. Good luck.



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hstinscdln

Talk to the person you are most comfortable with. I too have a social anxiety and when I feel that I want to share my work and get some opinion, what I do is share it to the person or people I am closest to. I also pick the person who I think would enjoy my work or someone who is a critique to gain some advices on what I should change or how I could improve my work.



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