Is sharing and writing about your personal mistakes and failures the most difficult thing to do

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October 17, 2018, 2:49 pm

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Is sharing and writing about your personal mistakes and failures the most difficult thing to do

When it comes to sharing your success or positive experiences, I don't think much of us will be very averse to doing it. After all, there is no harm in letting people know about your achievements and get appreciated for everything that you have done. the challenge comes when you are told to share everything about your failures. I guess most of us, will be very reluctant about openly admitting your mistakes and failures. have you ever shared anything about the mistakes that you might have done in the past or some failures that might have occurred in your life? Share your experiences regarding this.

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amelia88

amelia88

I think some people equate sharing negative experiences or failures to showing your weaknesses - and that can be a nerve wracking, humbling thing to do. Sometimes it can even be downright embarrassing! I do think though that it's important to share your failures. People need to understand that not everyone is perfect, and often sharing your mistakes helps others learn from them and not repeat them. It's a useful thing to do.

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jeffreyjose48

jeffreyjose48

I think its easy to share. All of us experience failures from time to time. The positive thing that will happen is people will help you succeed if they had similar experiences with yours.

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amelia88

amelia88

I definitely think some people are more comfortable sharing their mistakes or weaknesses with others. Maybe part of it comes with practice? Realizing you can open up about failure without the world coming to an end might be a good thing!

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Youngshark

Youngshark

it is almost thought-provoking and hence all the more reason why you should feel like you need to crack them app.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

"not everyone is perfect" You should actually make this to be "there is no one who is perfect" as all of us make mistakes. Even the gurus of the industry started somewhere with numerous errors and with time they perfected their craft. You should better the next generation by mentoring them on what to avoid and how to not make the same mistakes you did.

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jeffreyjose48

jeffreyjose48

I think its difficult to share when you are not willing to share to others. But if you are open, I believe you can do it. Its just a matter of choice.

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Judas2018

Judas2018

I wouldn't really share them unless asked. In like a speaking engagement setting or something. Or if someone wants a quote or story for a book they're piecing together.

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Youngshark

Youngshark

Yeeah I think this is also applicable. When someone asks for your advice regarding a piece that they need to write about the problems that many
writer face. You would be contributing to offering guidance to a lot of
upcoming writers hence great.

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nrnlss

nrnlss

I did share them to those people that I trust the most. It will taught them a lesson, to not do whatever I did. Also, it's something that I want to get out of my chest, that's why I share them. Lastly, I am not ashamed of my mistakes because those mistakes made me a better writer.

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Corzhens

Corzhens

I don't think it is that difficult to share your mistakes and failures if your objective is to benefit the readers. I have come across warnings and alerts about viruses and scams that they express their disgust for falling a victim to the trickery. That is one good way of warning people since you had experienced yourself that the scam is true. With the mistakes, I had written from time to time the failures that I had experienced in my career.

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mark8625

mark8625

I never shared mine of course, by the way who is that person wanted to tell people his mistake anyway? I always tell that to my family and closes friends only but not telling the whole world about it. It is practically not good and healthy for someone I guess.

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MomoStarr16

MomoStarr16

Don't you ever saw some one or even watched an inspiring video about a certain girl or boy that made a mistakes in the past then became successful in the future? I had watched a lot of those videos and that are those people that will tell their mistakes in the world. It is to teach other not to make mistakes like what they did.

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mark8625

mark8625

I saw many videos like that but that was a filmed already. Meaning they did that for purposes which is to convince others that whatever mistakes you did in your life, you still have a chance to be a successful in the future. What I commented at first above was coming into real life. I think most of the people are not proud to their mistakes. They keep it to themselves most of the time and when they become successful then by that time they could tell that mistakes to others as a motivation.

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emiaj55

emiaj55

Sharing a failure might seem revealing your less appealing side. When it comes to sharing these kind of information, I tend to be careful in choosing the failures I divulge. It isn't so nice to think but there are persons who may and will use those information against you. Thus, I can easily share, failures that I feel I have overcome and learned from.

Furthermore, I carefully think of the way I present it. It is not that I sugarcoat things, or make myself the good one in the story when I'm not. No. When I'm wrong, I'm wrong. But I carefully unravel the story in a way that my readers, or listeners would understand in my perspective why I did the things I did and at what point did i got it wrong, so that they may learn from my experiences.

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MomoStarr16

MomoStarr16

Depends on the pride of the writer. Some people have a hard time admitting their mistakes. And sharing it to many people will be harder for them. Most of the people I know that shared their msitakes are those people that are now succesful. They are not afraid to tell what their mistakes in the past because the new them are successful.

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ajahcuizon

ajahcuizon

I agree. Maybe their pride is what making them take a step back on sharing their mistakes and failures. Instead of thinking it as a failure, I prefer to look at it as one of my steps towards my sucessful future. They should be proud because they reached their success with their own failures.

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MomoStarr16

MomoStarr16

Finally someone that understand my point. It should become your motivation to improve yourself. Every mistakes we did there is always lesson to learn. Mistakes are just a blessing in disguise. And it will be a good lesson to other to tell how you stand up after your mistakes.

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superlicca

superlicca

I agree that sometimes it is the pride that stops people from sharing their failures. They think that they will be judged by others or they don't want anyone seeing them at the lowest point of their life. But I believe that learning to accept your mistakes and failures is the best way to be able to share your experience with others.

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amelia88

amelia88

Pride can certainly get in the way of sharing negative experiences. I do think though that it’s important to. For a lot of us I think our reluctance to share bad experiences comes from a fear of being judged and once we realize it’s not as scary to share as we thought, I think we end up sharing more!

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NerdIndeed

NerdIndeed

On a side note, I remember a saying that goes: "Once you lose your pride, you lose everything." IMHO, it's not wrong to have self-pride, but you need to know where you stand. Admit when you made a mistake, learn from it, share it to others so that they can learn from it too. That's one great character to have on your journey towards success.

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ajahcuizon

ajahcuizon

I think sharing personal experiences is the greatest way to inspire other people. It may be hard for other people as they think that other people will judge them by their mistakes. But what's important is the success you are having now from your mistakes. It may be difficult to share some mistakes, just think on how you will be able inspire other people on your journey and I think that's important.

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superlicca

superlicca

You got the point and I agree that you can inspire others by sharing your experiences with them. Possibly, your failures might be similar to their experience too. In this way, those people can give you a great advice that will help you motivate and work harder to achieve your goals.

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superlicca

superlicca

For me is not really difficult to share your failures or personal mistakes. By sharing these things, you can lessen the depression or the burden that you carry. It is good to have the courage to share your failures. In this way, you tend to get more advice that might help you recover from the failures that you are going through. It is also good to share with someone that is not close to you. This person might give you a fair advice and he won't easily judge you.

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iambeth

iambeth

I feel the same way. I think its cathartic to openly admit your failures and this will eventually enable you to recover from the embarrassment and distress of carrying such burden. It does require a certain level of maturity to be able to share your weaknesses.

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stbrians

stbrians

As much as I would like sharing my successes, my weaknesses come first. I often thing that through my mistakes I learn and through success I become proud. Failure humbles while successes make one arrogant. Better humility than being haughty. Being haughty is the devils doing while humility comes from the lord.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

Personally, I get easily irritated when someone or some people only brag on and on about their success. It makes me feel like they think they are above everyone else but when you look at such people closely, you are definitely going to discover that you are even far more better than them.

In as much as success stories are good to be told, it's very important to include the trials and failures before the success because it's the only way to show those listening or reading your messages how real what you are saying to them is and exactly what they should expect if they follow such route.

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stbrians

stbrians

Some people think writing about your failures is a weakness. Instead it is strength. You show all and sundry that you ate human. All humans are prone to mistakes. It is your weaknesses which steer you to success

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jayjaydimson

jayjaydimson

Not really, because writing your mistake can help someone who will read it in the future so that they won't do the same mistake that you did because it's a mistake already.

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Jeane

Jeane

I am never afraid of telling others about my mistakes or failures.

Though it is painful, we all learn something from failure. The lessons learned can be used to our advantage because you at least know what doesn't work. Sharing what you've learned with others implies that you've learned something and you are ready to move on and they can learn from your negative experience too.

This attitude towards failure - getting up when you fall - after admitting that you've made a mistake, is exactly what one needs to be successful in business or even in relationships with people. That is why I'm ever willing to tell people about my failures and mistakes. On the net though you should expect no sympathy from anyone.

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thejoyrevolutio

thejoyrevolutio

Sometimes I find it hard to share my failures and mistakes. But it you accepted your failures, it will get easier.everyone could learn from ones mistakes. So sharing them might be helpful to others too. You can also access why you fail or you did wrong by sharing it to someone. Others might help too. They could look at your past mistakes with a fresh eyes and can tell what would have been the solution.

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jaymish3

jaymish3

It used to be hard for me to do. With time I have realized the cathartic nature of sharing your failures. It helps you assess yourself and you can see how far you have come. It also helps you help other people. A guarantee in life is that everything at some point will be hard and will be a challange and some point you will fall flat on your face. It helps when other people know that you also go through the same thing.

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amelia88

amelia88

I love the way you look at it. There is something almost therapeutic about sharing failures, almost as if a weight gets lifted from your shoulders by simply speaking your truth.

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mitan143

mitan143

I don't really write my personal mistakes or failures and share it with everyone easily. But I can share it if it is motivational and if I can manage to turn my failure into an inspirational tool for other people. It isn't a difficult thing to do especially if it is based on your real experience(s).

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coolavender

coolavender

It depends on the type or level of mistakes and failures. There are personal failures that we may not want to share specially when there's no point in sharing them. For example, I have a personal finance blog and I have no business sharing relationship failures. It just doesn't fit in. It's easier to share budgeting failures or career misadventures where I have learned precious lessons that my readers can benefit from. In fact, many people make money out of these topics. However, it's a totally different matter when it concerns personal issues which could still hurt me.

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Martinsx1

Martinsx1

Go and read about the success of most scientists you hear and know about today, you are definitely going to see how many times that they failed in their quest to come up with their invention till they succeeded.

So, what I'm trying to say is that your failure should be a thing of shame for you but rather let it spur you to finally giving it your all and make it out on top.

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cmoneyspinner

cmoneyspinner

Writing about my personal mistakes is easy. It's part of my therapy and healing process. But sharing those mistakes? I'm not in the habit of doing that. I have to know the person I'm sharing my experience with and I have think that sharing my experience will prevent from making the same mistake.

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NerdIndeed

NerdIndeed

I'd instead share my mistakes and shortcomings, and not my triumphs. I want my readers to learn from my mistakes so that they will never get to experience it themselves. Writing about your successes and achievements in life may come across arrogant for some, in one way or another, and I don't want to be misunderstood by that.

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EfficientNinja

EfficientNinja

For me, it's not hard to admit or share mistakes in the past. I believe reminiscing these mistakes helps ingrain it on our minds. This would help us to avoid recreating these mistakes in the future because we are reminded by them. If we are sharing these mistakes to other people, it would educate them about our mistakes and hopefully prevent them from sharing the same fate.

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jayjaydimson

jayjaydimson

For some, I guess yes, but for me, there is nothing to worry about sharing those mistakes to others, because I know it can help them to avoid the mistake that I made so that they are aware.

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Kakashi2020

Kakashi2020

I'm not too keen in making my life's failures and mistakes into an article. I think writing about winning moments is much better than writing about ones mistakes because it's more uplifting than writing about disappointments.

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Barida

Barida

Yeah, I feel that sharing about our failures should only happen when we are successful and are using those tough experiences as a means to motivate others to look forward to a better future instead. Sometimes, people tend to tell more about their successes and achievements than talking about how they failed in some endeavors.

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jpk0007

jpk0007

I agree with most of the points made here in your answers to my posts. I think it can be difficult for some of us to share our shortcomings or our mistakes with others which is very understandable. if however, we are able to share our experiences about those mistakes that are likely to be repeated by others, then we will be able to help a lot of people to learn through our experiences and I think it will be the right thing to do. If we are able to help others by alerting them beforehand about the similar mistakes that you have committed in your past, then we will be able to help them and they will always be grateful for our help.

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Barida

Barida

To me, it depends on the platform that I am sharing such as I would not like to share my experience on a platform where people will want to judge me. As long as it is somewhere where people that are there are those that are mature, I can easily do so and hope that people will end up learning from me about that.

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esteban123

esteban123

I think that sharing and writing some of my personal mistakes and failures are not so hard to do because I am aware that it is just natural sometimes to make some mistakes since nobody is perfect. We also encounter some failures in our life but we should not look at it as a hindrance but a stepping stone to work hard and commit success in the future. We should be mindful and be positive as always since life is full of challenges, we may be happy for now or tomorrow would be full of sadness because that is life, everything is possible to happen under the sun.

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superlicca

superlicca

I think it also depends on the kind of failures that you are going through. If this is something too personal or sensitive then it should be kept or shared with trusted people only. I know that sensitive cases need a special care. Some people might be mean in giving their opinion and thoughts.

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MomoStarr16

MomoStarr16

It also depends on who will be the audience of the said platform you are going to tell your mistakes. There are audiences that are so mature to understand you and there are also audiences that will going to be offended. So think it wisely if the audience will absorb it positively or negatively.

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mdayrit

mdayrit

I do not find it hard to share or write about things that I did wrong especially if I am sharing them to people that I trust. When it comes to sharing things to other people, I would of course choose information that I can only share. I do not want my whole life whether good or bad to be open to everyone.

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Jeane

Jeane

What if you want feedback that will help you deal with the fallout?

Will fear of negative criticism hold you back? Wouldn't it be better to just create a new identity on the net and tell the world about your mistake? Could be someone will offer advice which you will find helpful.

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theresajane

theresajane

I think it depends on the person. People remember mistakes and failures well and sometimes, they remember every detail there is of the bad time of their life that they can put it into writing. But for one to actually share it with everyone takes courage and humility. If you have accepted what happened on your life, you wouldn't be too afraid or embarrassed to share your story.

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jaybee19

jaybee19

I might be weird but I actually prefer to write about my failures and mistakes in the past. The reason why is because maybe I want to inspire people about how I was able to stand up after I fell and what lessons I learned from those mistakes. For me, personally, that should also be one of the essence of writing - to inspire people to get up inspite of being injured from the mistakes and failures they've experienced.

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jeffreyjose48

jeffreyjose48

It is not really very difficult to share my personal failure as long as my intention is to influence people not to emulate similar mistake. As I share my mistakes or failures I feel a sense of relief which helps my emotional and mental state. More so, the Bible says confess your faults....that you may be healed.

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Einalem

Einalem

Sharing and writing about my personal mistakes and failures aren't difficult for me. Every mistake I make is not something I am ashamed of as it's what helps me grow. Besides, if it will benefit the readers or audience by gaining important life lessons, I won't hesitate to share. I've shared several mistakes and failures to my friends, and even when writing compositions at school.

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cks003

cks003

Psychologists have researched and find that admitting one's mistakes and shortcomings is not an easy task, whats more admitting them in the public domain. It is not a natural undertaking that humans like to make as it is inborn among us that we are better than others. For example, we like to compare with someone and still feel better in some areas. It is called self serving bias in the fraternity. Even if one is to admit mistakes and shortcomings, they are done half heartedly to preserve one's ego and pride.

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hstinscdln

hstinscdln

For me, it's a yes. I don't like exposing my mistakes to the people. It feels like you're degrading yourself to the public. It's a mistake and letting people know about is not necessary. They will just judge you will even lose credibility or reputation. It's never a good thing for me.

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koki12346

koki12346

If done anonymously it is the best thing and the easiest thing that you can do, just makes you feel better. If you do not do if anonymously it truly is the hardest thing to do, nobody wants their frustration to come up in public. My honest opinion.

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Wenkx03

Wenkx03

I agree with you. I guess our pride always get in the way if we intend to write our failures. But I think it would be an inspirational story if you pull that off. Imagine your readers learning while reading your story. Knowing what to do and don'ts.

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mhingnhormz

mhingnhormz

Is sharing and writing about your personal mistakes and failures the most difficult things to do: Not at all. Maybe at first, it's really hard to do so. But as time goes by, when you fully accept your mistakes and failures with all yout heart, then, when you share or write it to others, you can smile at them without any hesitation in sharing it.

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