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Choosing the people in your network



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Choosing the people in your network

When I created my Facebook account, my idea was to collect friends so I was sending friend request to almost anyone I meet in Facebook. It may have been the remnant of Friendster that the number of friends mattered. But now I came to realize that I should be choosy with the friends that I have because a network is a give and take. That means when I post something the people in my network should react and I would do the same to their posts. Since early this year I had started deleting some friends who do not react to my posts. 

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Jelineex

We love to have friends on any social media account but we can't also force them to like or accept us. Other, people doesn't care much of who we are and what we do. It's always a right and a choice of a user to interact in any activity posted. It's a free space and it deserved to be respected.



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NerdIndeed

I agree, and maybe some of them might also be busy with work or family and strictly use social media for messaging purposes only.



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emiaj55

I agree. Sometimes we can't help to feel that way but we shouldn't really expect everyone to react on our posts. For one, we are not really the only friend they have (in FB for example) and our posts would not be the only story on their news feeds. And even sometimes, it is better not to react on something so that you won't hurt feelings of your friends when you do not really like their post.



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NerdIndeed

Haha, really? Well, I guess that's alright. I read from somewhere that you're the average of the five people you usually hang out with, so choose your friends wisely. I don't know, but regarding friends on social media, it doesn't matter that much to me. But in real life, it does.



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kaushikangara

I only add people who I know on my Facebook. I have received numerous friend requests from outside sources and from people who I do not know and I have ignored all of those. I only have selected number of friends(around 200) on Facebook. I am in contact with those people and regularly exchange messages on chat. I have also edited my privacy settings so that only my friends can see what I post and what I comment. It is good to add only trusted sources on social media these days.



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NerdIndeed

If you receive friend requests from people you don't personally, they're up to something. It's either they'll ask you to join multi-level marketing or ask you to be part of a group to increase their subscribers, haha!



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Jelineex

Probably, they find you handsome. Your one sexy beast that needs to be added as friend. They can't resist on your charm. I experience people requesting add friend with different interior thoughts. It's funny to know their intentions.



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NerdIndeed

Haha, it can also be this. Yes, you're right, I know a few who adds random girls based on how they look without even looking at their profiles. They don't even care if they're married or not as long as she's young, hot, and pretty.



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Jelineex

Your 100% check. There is so much fun and entertainment in social media. Free of charge, You can just select and check. No one cares as long as it satisfy the needs. It is a good source vitamins. Beware and choose wisely. You never know what they're up to.



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NerdIndeed

It's up to someone how he or she will use social media. Some use it purely for entertainment, others for catching up with old buddies, and the few who use it to learn and advance their respective careers. So use it wisely, haha!



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Steve5

That made laugh a lot. I mean, it's possible. I like your confidence. Who knows? It could actually just be about your physical appearance. It happens a lot in social media these days.

Being handsome is both a gift and a curse to people.



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NerdIndeed

Being handsome is both a gift and a curse to people.

I can't say because I haven't experienced being good-looking yet. They may be advantages and disadvantages of it, but I'm sure the pros outweigh its cons, does it?



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Jelineex

If you haven't experience being a good looking guy. Then, it's a curse. You have lose the chance. Kidding aside, everyone is beautiful in the eyes of our mother. She's our great supporter. Our friends will praise and adore us but mostly of the time it's a joke. Ha.Ha.Ha!



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NerdIndeed

Haha, I couldn't agree more my friend. My mom is my number one fan. She always tells me that the woman that I'll be spending the rest of my life with will be so lucky. Not sure if she means it though, LOL.



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Jelineex

I guess, your mom meant it. She knows you are a good provider and has tons of monetary value in any banking institution. Your mom knows how good you are and you deserve a good wife in the future. I just don't know if your mom knows that you are scared with ghost. Peace!



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Steve5

That's so true. It's really a marketing tool nowadays. Sometimes it's even recruitment. I don't like it when people just send you a message all of a sudden. Particularly, when it's just about something that will benefit them.



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Jelineex

I agree with you. It's not always safe to add anyone in our friends list since there have been a lot of unscrupulous users. We don't know their motives. It's not even advisable to post our daily life routine activity. This will give way to interested wicked users. It is always better to be safe.



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Steve5

I think so too. Lots of shady people on the internet nowadays. That's why you should also never put sensitive information online. Always do important stuff offline. That way, they can't use it against you.



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luv2xacosta

I agree. Some friends might betray you. Besides when your are hiring your friends, you would be awkward to demand them for extra work.



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amelia88

I’ve had those frustrating requests and attempts at contact too. Zero mutual friends, not even in the same geographic location, and no clue who they are. Those kinds of requests get an immediate delete from me!



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Steve5

I feel your vindication. I noticed that you frequently end your last sentence with exclamation points. I like it. I'm also wary of accepting friend requests from practically unknown individuals. It's a red flag for unclear motives.



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Steve5

I think you're doing great. It's important to keep your connections relevant and secure. You want to be safe from potentially harmful individuals. You also need the space to find what you actually like. It's hard to do that when your feed is filled with stuff that hardly interests you.



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burgosmichael24

People have different reasons of adding friends on Facebook. If you are using your Facebook account for your own pleasure and just to make communications and interact with your friends, it's better if you really choose those people in your friend list. However, if you are using your account to promote something like events, products, services, business or advocacy the more the better. It depends on your purpose. Nonetheless, it's not a bad thing to be careful on choosing your network.



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Steve5

Yes, you're right. I've often found people mixing these two things together. It's not a good idea. It's best to keep business and personal matters separate from one another. It helps you focus more on each aspect of your life.



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jaymish3

I think that deleting friends in my opinion is a lit bit too harsh. I think that you should just leave them. Maybe what your posting does not motivate them to react? I also think that people should have two separate Facebook accounts. If you want to build a network, build it around something. E.g is this a work network, marketing network. Join groups and try to get friends from those groups. For your personal network just let it be friends and family.



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amelia88

The idea of two accounts is a good one I think. Sometimes you do want to expand a network and reach out to more people potentially for job connections and things like that, but don’t necessarily want those people reading every single thing on your mind.



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Steve5

I feel the same way. It's kind of uncomfortable having one account for both your business and personal use. Not only does it somewhat becoming confusing at times, it's also hard to focus on either one. They're totally different from one another.



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Steve5

That's a good idea. It's better to have your own separate account specifically for family use only. This could be why people find it hard to stay active on social media. You're constantly bombarded by stuff you're not interested in.



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knnon

I think the poster meant about deleting is, deleting off people they don't personally know. If judging from the story that the poster added a lot of people and sent friend requests.



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Steve5

I understand where you're coming from. A lot of times social is just an ego boost to people. I remember back then how people kept adding just about anyone in order to increase their number of friends. Everyone at that time wasn't as suspicious of people unlike now.

They simply accepted the friend request and were happy to converse with others.



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amelia88

Yes I think times have drastically changed since those early days of Facebook. Even going back one extra step to MySpace, I think back then I accepted anyone and everyone’s request whether I knew them or not. Looking back at that now I realize how dangerous that can be.



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Steve5

You're right. Everything's surely different nowadays. I guess we didn't have much to worry about back then. I mean, people were simply interested to communicate with one another.

It used to be a quaint new concept that made making friends much easier. Now it's all about making money and online businesses. Most especially, people looking to scam others.



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amelia88

I used to be like that too where I felt like having a higher friend number was important but now I realize it’s quality over quantity. I’d rather have a smaller number of friends who I actually engage with rather than a ton who don’t really even talk with me.



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Steve5

That's true. Thinking about it now, it's kind of painful. I mean, we have lots of "friends" online. So it might seem that we're popular in theory. But really, we just have a bunch of profiles who are strangers to one another.



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jpk0007

I also have a huge number of friends on my Facebook profile with whom i have interacted very rarely in the past. These are friends i have accepted in the past. I would say that as long as they dont create any trouble for me i would not delete them.



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knnon

I'm a very private individual. I only give out my Facebook account to people I personally know or have been talking to for a long time. It's not only about privacy but it's also about safety concerns for me. I don't want stranger finding out where I usually go to or what I do. It's just creepy.



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Barida

Yeah, it is also about our safety as people that we don't really know may harm us in one way or the other and that is something that is pretty bad and evil. So, I think once I log into my Facebook account, I should delete some friends as well.



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knnon

We should always be careful around strangers, specially online! Because we don't see them and we don't have a clue if they're watching our accounts. Just be careful when you start deleting people from your Facebook! I accidentally deleted a good friend off mine because she changed name and I wasn't aware of the change she made as we don't communicate much on Facebook.



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cjctm11

I am a friendly to almost anyone I could possibly meet. But as a Facebook user, I consider to choose wise about who I'm gonna be friend with. At social there are a lot of fake accounts or dummy account that couldn't even help you or our community. I don't add those who I don't really know or I didn't even meet them personally not unless it was for business. It doesn't matter if they don't react to my post as long as they are not annoying me. It was good to be friendly but you must wise who you want to be friend with.



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Barida

To an extent, it is good that we delete some friends that don't really contribute to the things that we write. This is one of the ways that we can get to have a limited number of people that will always appreciate the things that we do as well.



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Martinsx1

If my memory serves me right, about two weeks ago, I deleted about 800 inactive friends on my Facebook account.

It's useless having friends on Facebook who doesn't add any value to your account.

Why should I keep being friends with ghosts?



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mhingnhormz

Choosing the people in your network: My first social media account in facebook i have a lots of friends that i don't really know in person and it seems no sense at all unless interms of having a contest of counting of friends in social media. I made a new account and i already choose people I connect with me.



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Jeane

There really is no need to have many friends or followers who aren't interested in what you post.

Maybe there was a time numbers did count when you wanted to appear more popular by having many friends but when if you are interested in promoting something on social media then you'll need to either let people find and add you as their friend (in their social media accounts) or add and follow people who you interact with in relevant groups because at least know you have similar interests.



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Martinsx1

Seriously, it's very useless having 5000 Facebook friends and not have at least a minimum of 1000 traffic to all your important posts. Those 5000 friends aren't worth to be your friends at all.

Also having friends whom you aren't familiar with puts your account at the risk of getting hacked. Don't accept friends request from people you don't know well.

It's better to play safe when using social media accounts.



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luv2xacosta

I don't mind who my friends are in my social media. I'm more particular in friends who I've known personally. Anyways I'm not posting of what was happening in my life, I just use social media a way of communication, that's why I'm not bothered.



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coolavender

I'm not using my Facebook account for business so I can afford to choose friends. I have less than 200 friends on my account. However, if you intend to use it to promote a product, service, or content later, it would be better to have more friends on your social media account. They may not react actively to your posts but they may also be lurking and reading your posts which is good enough if you're looking for traffic. The number of friends/followers on social media may also be used by third parties to assess your influence.



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Franzel2oo

It is true that the people you surround yourself with will greatly influence where you finally end up. I make it a point to be involved with people who share the same thoughts about life as I. What this means is, we will often discuss the same sibjects, engage in the same activities, and walk on the same path. It's easier to relate with such people and assess yourself based on the progress you are making between you all.



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